When someone has judged you, decided for themselves who and what you are, they have placed you in a box of definition which makes you easier for them to deal with. No matter what you do or don’t do and no matter what you say or don’t say, everything will be taken by that person as proof that you are who they have judged you to be, even if that person is your spouse. There is nothing you can do (and it isn’t your job) to try to change their opinion of you.
Our job is to pay close attention to what God want’s from us and be careful to meet those expectations. Once we have at least partially succeeded with that process, He will take over reshaping another person’s view of you. As long as we continue to try to change our reputation with someone, He allows us to continue to try until we give that responsibility over to Him. He is so much better at that then we are.
A question: If I decided a person has judged me, have I not judged them?