Look back over the last three posts. They address how to resolve issues in marriage. Remember that the closeness of marriage is the setting which allows conflict. If you find yourself thinking, “I only have this kind of conflict with my spouse. How come I get along so well with everyone else?” That is a dangerous thought pattern. You would likely have the same issues and likely more difficult ones if you were married to anyone else. It’s the closeness of being married that allows these conflicts to arise and the Edmonton Counselling works on couples therapy to help partners to understand their relationship.
When you have become more skilled at resolving marital issues, each resolution creates more emotional intimacy within the marriage. This happens because the strength of the marriage is more evident when a resolution is successful. Physical intimacy is simply a celebration of emotional intimacy. Both partners get wonderful rewards from resolving a conflict.
What is great about this process is resolving an issue as it arises, also resolves all the times in the past when this same issue popped up. No longer does the couple argue until they are tired of arguing. The conflict produces the end product of intimacy.